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What NOT To Say To Someone Single

You know that saying "If I had a nickel for every time I heard ________"?

Well, if I had a nickel for every time I heard a variation of the phrase "There's no WAY you're single" I would have a lot of nickels. 

 

Let me first start by saying I absolutely know it's meant to be a compliment. And I do find it flattering. 

But in all honesty, I also find it a bit frustrating. 

To me it's a bit of a back-handed compliment.

I think society has a misconception that any "pretty girls" should always have a significant other. And if they don't, chances are they're crazy/ *itchy/ unstable/ etc. As if the ONLY reason they are single is because something is wrong with them. 

I always get joked on the show that I "can't get a man" or "no one wants me" and as much as I 100% realize it's all in good fun, I do think it's a stereotype cast on single women. 

My last relationship was almost 3 years ago, which probably seems like FOREVER to most people. I've dated here and there, but the truth is I haven't found a person worth investing time into to build a relationship. 

Am I picky? HELL YES. 

But is that a bad thing? I don't think so. 

We all know that person who is the "serial dater". They can't go more than 2 weeks without jumping to the next relationship. They're ALWAYS dating someone, and usually have someone on the back burner ready-to-go in case things go south. 

It might sound harsh, but I tend to attribute that to insecurity. They aren't happy with themselves, so they rely on others to build up their self-worth. They don't like themselves enough to spend time alone, so they jump from person to person so they never have to be. 

Myself on the other hand...I enjoy my alone time. (Maybe too much, Haha!) I truly think I've grown enough in the past 3 years that when I do meet the right person, I won't need a 'single phase'. I've grown to love myself enough that I'll be ready to love someone else too. 

Maybe this all sounds corny, but I think any single woman (or man) can relate to the comment "You're too pretty/nice/funny/etc. There's just no way you're single!" 

Being single CAN be a choice, and when you do decide to settle down you can give ALL your pretty/nice/funniness to Mr. or Mrs. Right. ;) 

Xoxo, 

Marissa 

 

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